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I’m Shari (she/her) and I’m a holistic sex and relationship coach in Los Angeles.

I believe you have an infinite capacity for love, intimacy, and pleasure that’s waiting to be unlocked.

No matter your age, body, gender, sexual orientation, or history, you deserve to have the love, sexual expression, and connection you yearn for.

I teach my clients how to build strong relationships in three key areas:

  • Relationship to the past.

    First, we look at how your current relationship patterns are rooted in your past. What happened when you were young to make you YOU? You’ll understand how your relational blueprint was formed, and you’ll develop self-awareness around what triggers you, why, and what you can do about it.

  • Relationship to the present self.

    Then, we look at your current relationship with yourself and the interplay of your mind, body, emotions, and spirit. We’ll unpack and rewire your limiting beliefs and build self-compassion. We’ll strengthen your embodiment, emotional awareness, and connection to spirit, magic, and nature, bringing you more joy and pleasure.

  • Relationship to others.

    Finally, we’ll focus on your relationships with others. From a place of connection to yourself, how can you connect most authentically with romantic and sexual partners, friends, family, colleagues, and your community? We’ll dig into your boundaries, communication, and erotic skills to help you get the intimacy you want.

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I will help you to:

Be more loving and less critical of yourself

Rewire negative beliefs into empowering thoughts

Express and regulate your emotions

Love your body— as is!

Build intuition and self-trust

Have tough conversations successfully

Build shame resilience

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What are the results?

Own your desires, feelings, needs, and boundaries

Turn conflicts into opportunities for greater intimacy

Know what you really want in bed

Ask for what you need unapologetically

Navigate conflicts with grace

Have less tension in your relationships and your life

Make all your relationships opportunities for personal growth and healing

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What clients are saying…



“Shari is a true healer. It seems like she's activated with the experiences and lessons of multiple lifetimes.

In our sessions, she provided me with an authentic, grounded, and protected space. She's got this really deep emotional intelligence and we went into trauma, grief, integrating lessons from other self-work, and navigating through a large transition in my own life.

I was drawn to her because I'm interested in the type of deep self-work that involves breaking down some walls, healing myself first, aligning my past actions and experiences, and becoming a force for good in my life and the world. Definitely seek her out if you're drawn to that work.”

— Austin, carpenter

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