I believe that no matter your age, body, gender, sexual orientation, or history, you deserve to have the love and connection you yearn for.
I’m Shari (she/her), and I’m a holistic sex and relationship coach in Los Angeles.
Credentials
Certified Somatic Sexologist trained in the Somatica Method
Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University
Trained in psychodynamic theory, queer and feminist theory, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment theory, Hakomi mindfulness-based somatic psychotherapy, meditation and mindfulness, and somatic practices
7+ years of experience working with clients to heal trauma and improve their relationships
Sexuality is an essential and dynamic part of being human—woven into our relationships, our sense of self, and our experience of vitality and connection.
My philosophy of coaching is rooted in the conviction that every individual has a unique “erotic fingerprint”—a constellation of needs, desires, fantasies, histories, values, and boundaries—that deserves space to be discovered, accepted, and expressed without shame. My work is devoted to helping clients understand and reclaim their erotic selves, especially where that self has been distorted, silenced, or shamed by trauma, cultural messages, or relational wounding.
I teach my clients how to build strong relationships in three key areas:
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Relationship to the past.
First, we look at how your current relationship patterns are rooted in your past. What happened when you were young to make you YOU? You’ll understand how your relational blueprint was formed, and you’ll develop self-awareness around what triggers you, why, and what you can do about it.
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Relationship to the present self.
Then, we look at your current relationship with yourself and the interplay of your mind, body, emotions, and spirit. We’ll unpack and rewire your limiting beliefs and build self-compassion. We’ll strengthen your embodiment, emotional awareness, and connection to spirit, magic, and nature, bringing you more joy and pleasure.
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Relationship to others.
We’ll also focus on your relationships with others. From a place of connection to yourself, how can you connect most authentically with romantic and sexual partners, friends, family, colleagues, and your community? We’ll dig into your boundaries, communication, and erotic skills to help you get the intimacy you want.
Rates
$200 for 50-minute individual sessions
$250 for 75-minute partner or family sessions
Sliding scale rates may be possible based on need and availability.
Access helpful relationship resources on my blog.
Check out my favorite books on healing, sexuality, and social justice.
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