Hi, I’m Shari. I’m a certified Somatic Sexologist and Relationship Coach, a certified EFT (Tapping) practitioner, and I hold a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles. I integrate these powerful approaches to offer coaching programs that go beyond talk—helping you get to the root of sexual trauma and early wounding through experiential practices. Together, we’ll work to release sexual shame, foster secure attachment, build embodied self-expression, and cultivate deeper intimacy in all your relationships.
I draw from a wide range of influences in my work—including psychodynamic theory, queer and feminist theory, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment theory, and Hakomi mindfulness-based somatic psychotherapy. My practice is also deeply informed by meditation and mindfulness, Authentic Movement, Authentic Relating and Circling, ancestral healing, Tantra, and depth psychology. These diverse modalities allow me to weave together science-based tools and research with somatic, intuitive, and mystical practices to create sessions that are both practical and transformative.
Our work together will feel grounded, spacious, and alive—designed to shift the way you relate to yourself, your loved ones, and the world around you.
I’m also certified in Michaela Boehm’s Nonlinear Movement Method and trained as a dating and relationship coach for LGBTQIA+ women and non-binary people through the Conscious Girlfriend Academy.
I approach coaching with a deep reverence for the diversity of erotic experiences. I’m committed to creating a space where you can explore sexuality in ways that feel liberating, empowering, and self-defined. I believe that the core task of our work is to help you arrive at a fuller, more embodied understanding of your inner truths and to support you in navigating the emotional, relational, and social challenges that may be entangled with those truths.
My goal is to help you move from shame and confusion to clarity and empowerment. That often begins by gently unpacking the messages you’ve internalized about sex—whether from family, religion, media, or past relationships—and replacing those messages with more compassionate, affirming, and accurate narratives.
I work relationally and integratively, combining psychodynamic insight, somatic awareness, and education to help you heal from sexual trauma, navigate changes in desire, explore new aspects of your sexuality, or find deeper erotic connection in your relationships. We’ll work together to shift your focus from performance or goals to curiosity and presence, helping you move from self-surveillance to self-connection.
This work is inherently political.
In a world where systems of power—shaped by gender, sexuality, race, ability, and class—determine who gets to feel safe, who is allowed access to pleasure, and whose desires are validated, healing our relationship to sex and love becomes an act of erotic justice. I believe that reclaiming our erotic selves is not just personal—it’s radical.
Everyone deserves the chance to speak openly and honestly about their sexual needs, boundaries, and longings. But for those who have historically held less power—women, queer and trans folks, people of color, people with disabilities, elders, and those who have been economically marginalized—this freedom is especially vital. Creating spaces where all bodies, all identities, and all desires are honored is at the core of my work.
Because when we reclaim our right to pleasure, connection, and truth, we create the conditions for a more liberated and loving world.
As a coach, I strive to embody the same openness and nonjudgment that I wish for my clients to internalize. I aim to model a relationship to sexuality that is curious, playful, and human—not perfect, not prescriptive, but attuned and evolving.
I see healing as a collaborative process, not an expert-driven one.
I hold space for clients to define their own values, desires, and limits, and I am especially attuned to the ways that intersecting identities—such as race, class, disability, gender identity, and body size—shape a person’s access to pleasure, safety, and agency.
Ultimately, I believe that erotic wellness is not a luxury, but a birthright. And I believe that sex and relationship coaching, when done well, can be a powerful vehicle for healing and transformation.
It can reconnect people to parts of themselves that were once lost or denied.
It can strengthen relationships, deepen intimacy, and open doors to joy.
And it can create a ripple effect, inviting people to show up more fully—not just in the bedroom, but in their lives.
The work of relating starts with ourselves and the people we love, but our work is incomplete unless we expand our circles of relating outward and ask ourselves, how am I relating to my community? to those I disagree with? to the natural world? to my ancestors? An important step in situating ourselves in the web of life is knowing and acknowledging the first people of the place you live, and becoming familiar with their stories.
In this spirit, I acknowledge that my home in west Los Angeles occupies the unceded lands of the Chumash and Gabrielino/Tongva peoples, who stewarded this area for centuries before their genocide, enslavement, and displacement by colonial settlers. These tribes continue to protect this land and water, maintain vibrant traditions and culture, and contribute to society in significant but often unseen ways.